Eulogy Example / Tribute

For your information and to help put things into perspective for this eulogy example:
This was a non- religious cremation ceremony for a 58 year old man, all persons and name places have been changed, the script was not read absolutely verbatim, but allowed for poetic licence.

The time allocated for each funeral service in most crematoriums is half an hour which isn't very long when you consider that the time has to include the entry and exit of the mourners and usually two hymns or pieces of music plus readings and prayers, as you can imagine that doesn't leave very long for the main eulogy/tribute which means that this important part of the ceremony often ends up shorter than the family involved would have liked. It's not surprising therefore to hear modern crematoriums likened to conveyor belt systems because as one procession exits through one door another enters through a different door, each trying desperately to make the most of their allocated time slot.
The reason we mention this in this context is because you may not know that it is possible in most crematoriums to book a double slot, which means you can have a full hour to do as you wish, which is exactly what the family of the person in the following tribute did, this meant we were able to present a longer tribute and we were also able to introduce some music and poetry into the tribute at appropriate times. (not included)

You may also be interested in this Example Ceremony - Semi-Religious Cremation Service

Eulogy Example - Tribute to Rob

Robbie grew up and lived his formative years in Name of Village, he was a tall, strong, good looking youth with a passion for sport, particularly football, playing in the Saturday and Sunday leagues, and also competing in cross country running with the co-op youth club in which he was always guaranteed first or second place.

He also enjoyed cycling, and it was a bicycle that carried him regularly to a youth club in Name of Town where he first met Janice.
She must have made a good impression on him as he exclaimed; you're never a Name of Village lass, the land of the barefoot warrior.
I think you will agree, not the most romantic of introductions, but never the less they were soon going out together, much to the dismay of other young girls in the club.

Robbie and Janice were married, and after a few years Alison and Peter added to their happiness, and when Alison and Peter were still quite young, Robbie was proud and happy to settle with his family in Name of Village.

Robbie was a first class electrician, he served his time at Norman's and his skills were in great demand, he never had any trouble finding work, Robbie wasn't afraid of hard work, in fact he thrived on it.
Employed mainly on a contract basis, he has worked for Names of Famous Companies adapting his skills to many varied projects, including oil rigs, power stations, and airports up and down the country.

As a supervisor Robbie was totally loyal to the men he supervised, he was always fair and just to them, he would often get upset when they were paid off, and whenever he was awarded a new contract he would ensure his men were the first to be re-employed.

Robbie had an incredibly strong sense of right and wrong, especially with regards to law and order, and very high principles that he stuck to no matter what; he was a man that you knew you could trust and rely on.
If he was ever in situations where he had the choice between the right way out, and the easy way out, then for Rob the right way would always be the path to take.

It takes someone of extra special strength and character to say something, to mean it, and then to stick by it.
Due I suspect to his strong character and serious nature, Rob had only a few very close friends, I know that those that were, are here today, and count themselves as lucky and privileged to have had a friend in Rob.

Rob was in some ways a regimental, military type of person, I'm sure if he had not met, fell in love, and married Janice, he would have joined the army, but that was not meant to be, instead he watched with pride as Peters career in the Para's blossomed, and later his career in the Police Force.

Peter recalled how despite his low school grades, his dad had managed to secure a place in college for him on a general engineering course, knowing that a trade would set him in good stead for the future.
And how his dad was devastated when after only 18 months he announced he was leaving the college and joining the Para's, and that when his dad realised how serious and determined he was, how he helped him get fit mentally and physically for the gruelling induction and training, which contributed to him passing out with flying colours.

Rob was a devoted family man, he hated having to work away from home and living in digs, but he did, because it meant he could provide for his family.
Nothing, but nothing was more important to him than Janice, Alison, and Peter.

That's why holidays were special times.
Alison recalled that though not her most favourite pastime, they have had some wonderful youth hostelling holidays as a family, with hiking and other outdoor pursuits in the Peak District, the Lakes, and Scotland.
Though they did have holidays abroad, Rob was always glad to get back home to England his most favourite place, saying there's enough to see in the British Isles before going anywhere else.

Long walks and enjoying the countryside was Rob's way of relaxing and letting go, he would always be smiling as he walked and it brought out the best in him and his sense of humour and fun.

At home Robbie was a meat and two veg man, always encouraged by Janice's love of home cooking, in which he took great delight.
This meant that whenever the family were out walking, Rob always had the biggest and heaviest rucksack, usually because it was full of potatoes, he wasn't having any of that powdered rubbish when he could have proper mash.

Rob never asked for much from life, he was a happy and contented man, he was not in any way materialistic, he didn't aspire to possess things, he got his most pleasure from reading or listening to music, of which he had a very wide appreciation, ranging from John Williams which was playing earlier, right through to Bon Jovi and Elvis.

Rob loved his old Volvo, which he finally had to let go after nearly 18 years, he replaced it with a new one, which became his pride and joy, but sadly he only had the pleasure of a few months use.

Another of Rob's favourite pastimes was his DIY, he was very talented and all his projects had a certain professional touch that can only come from someone who takes great pride and care in getting things right.
Rob loved his house, and he loved working on it, in fact he had more or less re-modelled the whole house.
His last project which sadly didn't get finished was a garden table, and although admitting he's pretty useless at do it your-self, Peter has vowed to finish the table for his dad.

Rob kept up his sporting activities, he continued playing football until he was 45, at which time he was awarded footballer of the year and Janice managed to persuade him to hang up his boots and concentrate on his badminton, which like everything else he took very seriously, Rob was extremely competitive, it didn't matter whether it was football, badminton, cards, or trivial pursuit, if you were going to play, then you had to play seriously, and play to win.

This meant that Rob was easy to wind up, and he was often the brunt of family jokes, which I might add, like the gentleman he was, he took squarely on the chin.

Peter recalled a game of Christmas Trivial Pursuit in which family and friends were split into two teams, it turned out that Jim and Rhoda were amazingly good at it, and being well read, so was Rob, which he could prove if only they would get a question wrong and let him have a roll of the dice to have a go, but he couldn't get a look in, and as the game progressed he was getting more and more frustrated, much to the amusement of everyone else.

Being very strong minded meant he also had very strong personal views, but his views were his views, you were also entitled to your own opinions, and he could listen with an open mind to anything interesting you might have to say, but he was not interested in idle gossip.

Janice will admit that it didn't happen very often, but when Rob smiled at you, his whole face would light up and radiate with sincerity and warmth, just like the rest of him, Rob's laughter and smiling face was genuine.

Rob had a lot of time for, and patience with his grandchildren, he dearly loved every one of them, and Rob, this Gentle Giant wasn't afraid to show it, whether it was with his own children or his grandchildren, he would make sure they knew they were loved.

Rob's illness forced him to leave work earlier this year, and his plans for retirement that he had worked so hard all his life for were not to be realised.

It seems incomprehensible that a fit, healthy, and active man as Rob was, should become a victim of his own body turning against him, I don't think Rob could believe that his body was doing things to him that he couldn't control.
He found it very difficult to accept his illness, and when asked, he would always say, I'm OK thank you.

Rob was extremely patriotic; he believed that England was the best country in the world, if asked he would tell you he was an Englishman born in England, not the UK or the British Isles, but England.

I would like to read something that was written by a truly great Englishman, Winston Churchill, I'm sure Rob would approve because I think it also sums up, in a way, his own philosophy on life.

Let us be contented with what has happened and be thankful for all that we have been spared.
Let us accept the natural order of things in which we move.
Let us reconcile ourselves to the mysterious rhythm of our destinies; such as they must be in this world of space and time.
Let us treasure our joys but not bewail our sorrows.
The glory of light cannot exist without its shadows.
Life is a whole, and good and ill must be accepted together.
The journey has been enjoyable and well worth making-----once.

Rob died on Date of Death aged 58 years.
I know he will be greatly missed by everyone who knew and loved him.

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